This is really a message for moms with boys. Women often lack an understanding of what is going on in their boys. They see their aggressive behavior and wonder where it comes from. They see their desire to fight and think they are being mean. They try to extinguish these behaviors. Moms just simply do not see this as something constructive. They do not understand that men and women are more different than the outward appearances of the body. Men and different in their psychological makeup too.
Males have a natural warrior spirit. It is placed within them to protect, to provide and to lead their families. The good side of this warrior spirit is being extinguished in males. More and more fathers no longer live in the homes where their sons are being raised. These boys are surrounded by women who try to suppress this spirit. Most, if not all, of their elementary school teachers will be women.
Many of the dads still living in the home are unable to address the issue of this warrior spirit. These men have grown up thinking it is something that needs to be subdued. They have either become passive or they have channeled this spirit in destructive behavior. They believe that a man is one who has had lots of sexual conquests or can drink other men under the table or who is a bully to others. They do not understand that this spirit still exists to provide, protect and lead. They can't lead their sons to the noble place of manhood because they have never achieved this for themselves.
I happened to be reading of Caleb, the son of Jephenneh, the Keniizzite this morning. He was one of the spies that Moses had sent into the land of Canaan. He came back with the expectation of taking this land for his people. I read how he is eighty-five years old and asking Joshua to take the hill country of the Anakim. These were people who were much larger than any of the others they would face. They would be formidable warriors but Caleb wants the hill country where they live so he can drive them out and fulfill God's will.
What is it in Caleb that makes him want to do this? It is the warrior spirit! He is directing this spirit to the fulfillment of God's plan. This spirit is doing what it is created for. He is making a place for his own to live. He is providing for their future. He is taking the lead to do the will of God.
Moms, your sons are not being mean when they want to fight with one another. They are being males. Some of this is very healthy. Some dads know that their sons like to wrestle with them from an early age. This will not hurt the boys. Yet, they must know what it is to become men if they will ever use this warrior spirit in a way that will make them into noble men.
Boys need an exposure to men who are noble or they will likely use their warrior spirit in a wrong way. Thus, we have men causing more than 95% of all violent crime. Thus, we have men who are abusing their wives and girlfriends. Thus, we have men who are abusing their children. Thus, we have men who are drinking away and gambling away their families future.
Who will be these men who will say, "Give me the land where the giants live. I will take it for my family!"?
Moms, you need to share this with the father of your boys. He needs to step up and teach his boys how to use this warrior spirit. He can learn that from studying noble men like Caleb in the Bible. If he is unwilling or unable to become the example for your boys, you need to get your boys into church where they will learn what a noble man can become.
Joshua 14:10-12 (NIV)
10 "Now then, just as the LORD promised, he has kept me alive for forty-five years since the time he said this to Moses, while Israel moved about in the desert. So here I am today, eighty-five years old! 11 I am still as strong today as the day Moses sent me out; I'm just as vigorous to go out to battle now as I was then. 12 Now give me this hill country that the LORD promised me that day. You yourself heard then that the Anakites were there and their cities were large and fortified, but, the LORD helping me, I will drive them out just as he said."
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