Thursday, April 4, 2013
Is Sexual Intimacy Improving as Society Devalues Sex?
Proverbs 5:15-20 (ESV)
I can't help believing that the more we strive to emphasize the pleasure of sex, the less we are receiving. The approval of sex outside of marriage has not enhanced sexual relations. Society tries to tell people that sex should be considered like a goodnight kiss once was. The big deal in old movies was whether the star had kissed the girl. Now it is whether he has slept with her.
But sexual intimacy is much more than a kiss. No physiologist would say that there are just as many senses involved as with a kiss. Sexual intimacy with several people lessens intimacy. The Bible says it is like taking your "water" and letting it flow down the streets. Do you ever think that the water which flows down the street is valuable? Would you reach down to drink it? No, you would see it as impure, possibly containing disease and carrying away the trash which has gathered on the road. It is ushered into the sewer where it belongs.
Sexual intimacy is intended for two people to share without the intervention of any others. It is special because there are no others. There is no one else to compare because there is no one else. It is special because one person shares it only with another person.
Sexual intimacy should be intoxicating. It should transport the couple into a euphoric state. It cannot be intoxicating if it is something mundane and made so by the comparisons with so many other sexual partners. How many men would like to hear the thoughts of a woman who has had twenty or thirty sexual partners. She may be thinking, "That was nice. It reminded me of when I was with . . . ." How many women would like to know the thoughts of a man who has had the same number of encounters. He may have lost the intimacy altogether. It is just a fun activity. To him, when it is over; it's just over.
Could it be that the Bible, God's Word, has gotten it right? A man and a woman should reserve their sexual intimacy for marriage and let no other person taint that relationship. It should be that special.
Or do you think Hollywood and society in general have it right?