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Friday, April 22, 2011

Has Human Desire Changed?

I read in the newspaper today that the top grossing films include men with twice the speaking parts and women showing the most skin. I laughed. Did someone actually take the time discover what should have been known? I think I will seek a grant to determine if water is really wet!

This study seemed to disparage the fact that an equal amount of women go to the movies as men. They did not give any conclusions why the women would have less speaking parts. So, I though I would send this flash: Nothing has changed in human desire from the beginning of time.

Women want relationships. They build these relationships with other women by communicating the details of their lives. They explore the depth of each relationship by how deep they reveal themselves to their friends or friend. They assume that men want these relationships and develop them in the same way. This is why I tell grooms that they won their brides' hearts by talking to them. They will keep their brides' hearts by continuing to reveal themselves by talking.

Woman may fantasize about sex but it almost always includes a relationship. Men, on the other hand, can fantasize about sex without knowing the woman's name. Many men enjoy the women's skin they see in the movies. They don't care if it is mere acting. It is what they desire.

So, these top grossing movies have hit on something that should be obvious. Men want to see the skin and women want to hear the men talk. Human desire will not change without an outside influence. It will take something greater than social conditioning.

Yet, that is exactly what men and women try on each other. Men want women to act more like men and women want men to act like women. Men are often disappointed in the lack of spontaneous sexual desire in their wives. Women are frustrated with the lack of communication from their husbands. So, each one tries change the other. Ads try to get women to desire skin and men to desire talking. These movies will go to the intellectual nerds who feel superior for suppressing their feelings. They will not be the top grossing movies.

I have heard that brain surgery, deep psychotherapy and religious conversion are the only things that will change a person. I have seen purity come from men and women who have truly given their hearts to Christ. I have seen many pseudo-Christians who talked a good game but were completely unchanged. But even true conversion doesn't change the ultimate desire. Sexual desire remains in men who become true believers. They, however realize unrighteousness and walk away from sexual desire that dishonors God.

I believe the natural desire to cultivate relationships is why women are generally more spiritually sensitive to God. God seeks a relationship with them. He speaks to them. They respond.

Proverbs 30:18-19 (ESV) 18 Three things are too wonderful for me; four I do not understand: 19 the way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a serpent on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a virgin.

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